Tegan’s Law: Campaigning to protect others from bullying

After years of being bullied at school, Tegan, 12, and her mum Collette talk about her experiences and their campaign to change the law to protect young people's mental health.

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Tegan was bullied in school for four years by other children. They broke her confidence down and changed her from a happy bright little girl to a quiet withdrawn child.

She eventually moved classes and things started to get better. Tegan has since found her confidence again and stopped the bullies affecting her life.

Since then, she’s written a book about her experiences and wants the law changed so primary schools prioritise the mental health of their pupils

Here, Tegan and her mum Collete share their stories and explain why they are campaigning for Tegan’s Law.

Bullying at school

Tegan: I live in Birmingham with my mum, dad and little sister. My mom and dad say I’m funny – I’m not like my sisters, I’m a bit different to them. My older sister is into dresses and my little sister is into makeup but I’m more of a tomboy. I like being a bit different to them, it’s good to have my own personality. I had my hair cut short the other day and gave it to the Little Princess Trust – I like doing things to help other people.

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I’m really confident and like trying things other people might not – like boxing. This is a big change though, I haven’t always been confident. It’s been a big turnaround. In the past, I’ve locked myself in my bedroom and not talked to anyone. I wouldn’t do that now.

When I was in Year Two I had lots of friends, but I started being bullied. A girl who I thought was my friend told them to push me in the mud and scratch and pinch me. Nobody stood up for me. I don’t know why she did it and I didn’t tell anyone it happened. I didn’t want to be a snitch. 

The bullying carried on all through school. In Year Three and Four, it was mostly name-calling and being left out of everything. My school didn’t do anything.

Things got out of hand

Collette: She was coming home from school crying every day telling me what names they had called her. I requested meetings with the school but never got anywhere. I was even attacked in the playground for trying to sort it out. It got out of hand.

Tegan: Things got even worse in Year Five. The bullies were saying things about my family so I confronted them and I ended up being surrounded. I managed to get away but I was really frightened and crying. After that, I was kept inside for playtime to keep me away from them, but it felt like I was being punished when I hadn’t done anything wrong. 

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Then they started making up stories about me. They gave me the name Sally and wrote a book about me so if the teachers found it, they wouldn’t know it was about me. They wrote that they killed Sally and hurt her. I didn’t understand why they were doing it.

I was kept off school but went back for Sports Day. They were all staring at me and it really upset my mum. We went home early in the end. I hated missing school – I wanted to do well in my SATs and I knew I was missing work that I needed to know. I just sat in my room while I was off, I didn’t want to do anything.

The impact of bullying

Collette: I had a meeting with the school and managed to get Tegan changed classes. She didn’t have any problems after that. Tegan totally changed after that, she was so much happier. 

The bullying had a huge impact on her. She withdrew and didn’t want to talk to anyone when we went on holiday. All her confidence disappeared. She’d hang on to me and her dad and ignored anyone who tried to make friends. It was heart-breaking to watch and not be able to do anything about it. She only wanted to spend time with her family. 

She took everything they said to heart – if they said her nails were too long, she’d bite them off. If they said they didn’t like a piece of clothing, she wouldn’t want to wear it. It affected her whole life. Even when she wasn’t at school and on holidays, she was still living with the impact because she wasn’t going out doing all the things she should have been doing. 

I even took her to the doctors because she was so tearful and would cry spontaneously but the doctor was no help. 

Tegan’s Law

Tegan: In Year Six, everything went back to normal and I really enjoyed school again. I found my confidence and stopped caring about the bullies. They tried to make friends with me but I told them to leave me alone. I’ve changed so much, I hardly recognise myself. All my new friends helped, they were a good support network. 

I want to share my experiences so other children know that they aren’t alone. I’ve written a book about what I’ve been through. I want to talk about what happened to me to show that you can turn a negative into a positive.  I want to let people know that things can get better.

If anyone is being bullied and they can’t talk to their mum or dad, then they can call Childline. You can talk to them about anything. I learnt about it in school and I know it’s great if you’ve got no one else to talk to. I was lucky to have my mum but if I hadn’t, I’d have called Childline. 

Collette: We’re now campaigning to get children’s mental health looked after at primary school age. Our MP is keen to help us get it talked about in Parliament and we want it called ‘Tegan’s Law’. 

To find out more about Tegan’s Law, visit: https://www.change.org/p/nspcc-tegan-s-law-making-education-boards-accountable-for-children-s-mental-health

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